As I sit here typing this with a toddler in my lap, I think, of course, my life has changed since becoming a mom. Having a baby at an age in my life where I was really just figuring out who I even was, has really shaped me into the woman I am today. These are some of my biggest takeaways from having a 2-year-old at 22.
YES, SHE WAS PLANNED
I've gotten some pretty nasty looks from people while out and about. People always assume that because I'm young, my daughter was a "mistake." This is far from the truth. I went through months of using my fertility tracker app to get pregnant purposefully. My husband and I believe there are many benefits to being young parents and that you are never truly "ready" so we went for it!
I CAN'T WAIT TO BE THE "COOL MOM"
And maybe all moms feel this way, but I really think that since we are closer in age than the majority of moms, that perhaps she'll want to come to me for ALL of the advice she needs. This may just be wishful thinking. And yes, I am totally planning on being the mom who chaperones all of the class field trips. Sorry in advance, Blakely May.
FREE AND 40
We have all heard that "God laughs when you make plans," but one of the things that was so appealing to us about having a baby young is that we won't have a baby when we're older.
It just made sense to us that we'd rather have the responsibility of having a child when we are young so that when we are 40, we have the freedom and the retirement fund to help us travel or do whatever it is that we want to do.
SHE DOESN'T HOLD ME BACK
This is probably its own blog in itself. I made a promise to myself when we got pregnant that I wasn't going to let having a baby keep me from living my life. If I'm being sincere, I actually have more of a life now then I did before being a mom. Of course, Blakely is number one in my life and always will be, but that doesn't mean that I can't have a life too. You know what I mean, If you have or ever have had a toddler then you know that sometimes even just going to a restaurant can be a huge ordeal.
FAMILY IS WILLING TO HELP
My mom and I are close, and I feel that having a baby has made us even closer. It warms my heart knowing that my mom will still be around for so much of my daughter's life. It also works to my advantage that my Moms still young enough to have the energy to keep up with a toddler!
I am so blessed to have such a supportive/involved family. If you think about it, it wasn't that long ago that my family was supporting me. So it's almost like they are still in that habit, and that my friend is VERY beneficial.
MY FRIENDS STILL HAVE THEIR PRE PREGNANCY BODIES
Unfortunately, the time we live in people care a lot about what their bodies look like. I wish I could say I was empowered by my stretch marks but of course, I'd rather not have them. I've always heard moms say that your body changes after having a baby but I guess I didn't really understand the extent or didn't think it would apply to me. Being so young and already dealing with these issues is definitely one of the negatives about having a baby so young. On the bright side, I do feel that I was able to recover a lot faster than say, a mom in her 30's.
I'M NOT AS HIP AS I ONCE WAS
...and I don't care. I don't immediately go to Youtube to learn the moves to the latest viral dance. Most of the time when people my own age use some new slang word with me ("It's trying to speak to me, I know it"), I don't have any earthly idea what they're talking about. I have my friends to fill me in on the things that will be around for a while, but I think I'm gonna keep letting the fads pass by. Those things just don't seem quite as important anymore... I think I may officially be "adulting!".